One of the worst issues you can have in your marriage is when sexual attraction is lost. If in the initial stages, your wife was passionate about sex but all of a sudden, there is some distance you cannot explain, it means something may be amiss.
While it is possible that she might be going through some personal issues or she may be experiencing some hormonal changes, it is also possible that your wife is no longer sexually attracted to you. Here are signs to know if she has lost interest in having sex with you, and how you may help that out:
Signs Your Wife is Not Sexually Attracted To You
1. Sex now feels like a chore for her
You have always loved and enjoyed sex with your wife but all of a sudden, your wife now makes sex seem very laborious. You have the feeling that she no longer has sex with you because she loves it but only out of responsibility and there is no life in it. This is a serious sign that she has lost sexual attraction.
Apart from making it seem like a chore, if your wife is no longer interested in foreplay or anything else, just to get it done with, there may be a thing to worry about.
2. Your wife does not initiate it
Another way you can tell if your wife is not sexually attracted to you is if she no longer tries to initiate sex with you. A bigger problem is when you try to initiate it and she doesn’t seem forthcoming.
3. She tried to avoid physical touch
When there is sexual attraction between two people, they will find it very easy to maintain physical touch and contact. When the sexual attraction begins to die down, your wife will start to avoid all physical touch and contact.
4. Does your wife continue to find a reason not to have sex with you?
This may be just another sign that she has lost all sexual attraction to you. There may be many other reasons why she may always come up with reasons that sometimes don’t make sense to avoid intercourse with you, but when it is protracted and the reasons are too flimsy, then there is a reason that the attraction has left your marriage.
5. She always appears to be distant
When your wife is losing sexual attraction, a lot of things will happen, and one is that she may start to be very distant from you both physically and emotionally. This is because just as she is no longer interested in sleeping with you, she may also not be interested in sharing the same space with you physically or emotionally.
6. Does she stop caring about her looks around you?
When a woman is sexually attracted to you, she will go a long way to make sure she looks appealing to you. If she stops doing this, there is a possibility that you may be losing her. If your wife has no problem with how she looks, how she comes to bed, and how smells, there may be something going wrong.
7. Is she getting impatient and confrontational?
If your wife gets very impatient with you for very flimsy reasons and confrontational for almost no reason when you want to have sex, it is possible that she is no longer sexually attracted to you and so she is looking for a way out.
Another thing is that she may be getting unnecessarily upset because apart from not getting the attraction, she is now getting frustrated around you.
8. There is no more romance or friendship in the marriage
If all the spark in your marriage is out of the window and all the romance you are dedicating towards your wife goes unreciprocated, it is a huge red flag that you will not want to ignore. More so, your wife should be your friend but when you do not have the friendly air around her, there may just be a problem.
9. She is very evasive
If you sense that there is a problem and you try to talk to your wife but she is very evasive, the sexual attraction is likely gone and she doesn’t want to talk about it because she may not know what is happening.
10. You have the strong feeling that she is not sexually attracted to you
If you strongly believe something may be wrong and your wife is losing attraction to you, it is most likely true. For most people, their gut feeling in a relationship is almost always true. The only time it goes wrong is when insecurities or other feelings drive it.
What Does It Mean If My Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me?
It is a thing to be worried about if you realize that your wife is not sexually attracted to you, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is coming to an end. Far from it, there are several other reasons why things maybe this way:
1. Your wife may be having some health issues
2. It is possible you have not been satisfying her in bed
3. Age is another thing to look at because the libido of some women starts to drop once they are on the other side of 30.
4. The body image of your wife probably because of weight loss or weight gain can also affect the sex drive of your wife and start affecting her.
5. Your wife may be suffering from so much stress as it is one thing that can affect the sexual desires of women.
6. You may as well be the reason why your wife is losing interest in having sex with you. Do you turn her off by the way you now look and your hygiene, or have you adopted new habits that now turn her off?
7. Another thing you may also want to consider is that your wife may have stopped loving you and she may have found love somewhere else.
What Can I Do When There Are The Signs My Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me?
– The very first thing you can do if you think your wife is no longer sexually attracted to you is to talk about it and encourage her to be honest. This will help if she lets you in on what the problem may be.
– If your wife is not coming forward, you do not need to push things. The next thing to do is to be patient with her because it is possible she doesn’t understand what is happening.
– Another thing you may consider doing is to seek counseling as a good therapist can give you professional help that will build back your intimacy.
– Work on yourself to look pleasing and more appealing to her. Also, try to improve your sexual prowess as that may be the reason why she is withdrawing from you.
– Do not get jealous, help her through the challenges she may be having, and be more romantic while not pushing things too much.